“You can’t heal by staying behind your wall of safety, you can’t forgive unless you step out and extend your hand and you can’t make change if you live in the past.”

Like all families, mine has issues.  Yes, my own family has their set of challenges but today’s Brenspiration was generated from my husband’s family issues.  Someone in my husband’s direct family has died.   We haven’t gotten arrangement details and my husband thinks that because of one incident when his father died that we won’t be getting those details.   The past is the past and whether you got along, were nice or mean, acted unacceptably or not doesn’t matter TODAY.  What happened in the past is just that, IN THE PAST!  You can’t predict what’s going to happen based on what HAS happened.  Yes, when you do that it could happen because it has happened however when you believe it will happen something in the universe changes because of the way YOU think and act.  High energy draws high energy to you.  Positivity draws positivity to you and as such, thinking negatively will draw negative outcomes to you.  Now sometimes that might not happen but read “The Power of Intention” by Dr. Wayne Dyer and you’ll understand what I mean by that.  What you believe is what most likely will happen.  If you live in the past where bad things happen you will most likely live predictively and draw those negative outcomes to you.  We need to learn to forgive people just like we say in church every week… “forgive us our trespasses as WE FORGIVE those who trespass against us”.  those aren’t just words to say in church.  you need to believe them in your heart and act accordingly.  Forgiveness takes bravery and courage and sometimes we have to be the one to step forward and make the first move BUT you better mean it when you say you forgive someone otherwise nothing changes.